teacher AJ wrote:
Steps
1. Talk. Communication is key. If you are afraid to talk to the girl that you're dating, or if you'd rather do something else, you need to set some priorities. Ask her how her day was. You want her to listen to you in regards to concerns over your peers, it's only fair if you listen to her do the same.
2. People love talking about themselves. Ask her about her dreams and hopes. It will make her feel like you care about her. Always ask her about school and her day as well.
3. Don't lie! If you need to go to sleep or the bathroom, and you're on the phone, tell her! If you are too embarrassed to say you need to use the restroom, how will you ever be close? You can tell your friend you need to go to the toilet so it should be the same for your girlfriend.
4.Try to avoid asking lots of questions about where they were/what they were doing. If they say "Be right back, I gotta go do something", it's usually best not to ask what they were doing, as it can make a girl feel annoyed.
5.Think before you speak! Try to keep things very very positive. If she's complaining about life, don't agree. Tell her she rocks and support her.
6.Compliments are excellent, but know that you should stop at the point where you're just listening to yourself talk. Girls know when you're sincere and when you're just blowing hot air. But, compliments never hurt anyone.
7.Nobody can write the definitive guide on dating! You need to experiment for yourself! Remember, romance is not always an easy thing.
8.Listen to what she has to say and pay attention.
9.Above all, take care of yourself. Keep your daily and lifelong goals in sight. Nothing turns off a woman faster than a man who chooses to accomplish nothing, even if all his attention is directed toward her.
10.Don't be obsessive. Give her some room.
Tips
Be a shoulder to cry on, lots of girls love hugs. Hugs are a great way to show affection. If you're there for her when she's down, it works wonders.
Again, gifts for no reason at all. Use the advice from the movie "The Perfect Man" and remember, yellow flowers are for your sick grandmother in the hospital. Go red or pink. Those work great. (Unless yellow is her absolute most favourite colour. Then she'll appreciate the fact that you remembered this.)
Don't forget anniversaries! This can be killer! Flowers are great, jewellery is great, chocolate is great. For big ones, you know, one year, two years, go for a handwritten poem. Frame it, that works really well.
Picnics are great dates, bring chocolate, cheese, sparkling cider, and pray for nice weather!
Be yourself. You can change, but don't change for the worse for the girl.
Never forget the power of an "I love you". In person is best, it goes great with a hug.
Don't go over the top impressing the parents. "Sir" is great if that's not too out of the ordinary in your region, but otherwise use "Mr". Address women as "Ms". It shows a great deal of respect, and will get you a long way.
If she's sick, do the whole "Get Well Soon" thing. Get her a big balloon, some flowers, and maybe even a small stuffed animal. It seems over the top, but she'll appreciate it.
If she looks sleepy, lean her close to you, and rest her head against your chest or shoulder, and just let her rest. A short nap with the one she loves will give her the energy she needs to love you!
Never forget what it is about you that attracted her to you. Whatever you were doing, keep it up. If she wanted someone NOT like that, she would have NOT chosen you.
Ask around, desirable women do not want a man 'lying down' for them. They want a man to be a man.
Be careful about becoming friends first. You want her to need her other friends and she probably has plenty of them. Be her boyfriend.
Be kind, but don't patronize. Sometimes giving her the dignity she deserves during hard times goes a lot further than a simple one-liner like "Don't worry" or "It's okay". Instead of riding in on the white horse and offering advice immediately, ask and be interested about what she is going to do about the situation.
Warnings
Again, avoid negative comments, or comments based directly on her physique. Not only are you directing an interest to an area best left discovered later in a relationship, you could come off as shallow, or just plain make her uncomfortable.
Avoid combative, demeaning, non-good-natured sarcasm. This type of sarcasm can lead to arguments, and arguments lead to the blame game. Don't let arguments come down to the "you did this and I know it!" Even your arguments should be constructive and positive steps toward furthering your relationship with this person. If you're unwilling to put in the time and effort to make this happen, then your relationship may not be as productive as you might hope.
Nobody can write a guide to this, so you need to experiment for yourself.
Asking her to come to bed with you is not sweet...and she won't appreciate the boldness and how unromantic it is.
If you are in a relationship with someone who is secretive and always right, you are probably not dating the perfect girl, and should move on in favour of a girl that will treat you as an actual person.
Never forget who you are and never stop being that person for her or anyone. It's ok to change for the purpose of personal improvement, but do those things for yourself.
Well, I agree yay
Subject: Re: How to Succeed in a Relationship with the Girl You Love. 
Sat Feb 07, 2009 12:43 am
